What do you want to do with your life?
Enjoying the moments the day has to offer is important in avoiding depression, if you hate your job then start making plans to change that. And yes I know that is a big step and finding your passion is easier said than done, I agree for sure.
When we need to make such a drastic decision like being brave enough to submit a CV for a new job and choosing to ignore that voice that says “better the devil you know” or even just starting a new hobby, you can do it through will power but I have a better solution, it will take something more than your normal decision making procedure.
Read on to find out about my preferred way. It has benefits that extend beyond giving you the courage to take the leap, the benefits are life changing as your thought world will be altered.
To follow your passion you will need to draw on something that exists inside of you that you may have never drawn from before, your deep well of courage. Inside of you is everything you need to be courageous, you may have never tapped into it before, or you may have dipped into it in the past. But how do you awaken this well of courage? How do you get access to it? This may seem very abstract, and you may think “that will never work” but I can say by experience that it does. Here are the steps you need to get out of your comfort zone and start following your dreams:
- Start moving more. Become more physical
- Wake up early, spend time in the quiet with no technology.
- Expose yourself to uncomfortable situations.
- Write down what drives you, what motivates you or what your dream is
- Create heart and brain coherence in order to make the right decision
1. Get physical
To get more physical you need to stop watching TV and start to move. Stretch while watching TV, or do some pushups, or the Lizard movement as Ido Portal does. I hate stretching but I do it, why? Because I need to stop making excuses. On that topic, getting into a cold shower will help you in more ways than one, most importantly it says you to get in that shower and stop making excuses, this is tantamount to saying get off your lazy ass, write your CV or your business plan and start taking some risks!
2. Be still
It’s important that the first thing you do every morning is not to switch your phone on and check your messages, do not turn the TV on and watch the news, rather get to a quiet place.
What you do in your quiet time should probably fall into these categories
- Meditation (there are a number of different ways to do this, more on this coming in my upcoming blogs)
- Focus on nature outside. Observing the trees, insects and wildlife. Just take it in and admire it
- Breathing exercises. There are a number of different exercises that will help you focus and give your body a boost of oxygen
I use my conservatory, so even if the kids are awake I can be shut off to an extent. In the summer I go outside, we have had some lovely sunny mornings here in east of England in June and July so I love getting my bare feet on the grass and connecting to the earth.
Doing practices like this actually gives you energy to tackle the day, you will find that you become more aware of your body, you might start to eat better, or you might find that your body starts to give you a warning signal that the food you are about to eat is not going to the best thing for you. You need to listen to this. In order for us to be able to follow our dreams we are going to need lots of energy to make that happen, we need to feel alive, confident and have that go get it attitude, we can’t do this if our bodies are sluggish and tired.
3. Get out your comfort zone
Who wants to get out of their comfort zone right!? I remember hearing about a Ted talk where the guy challenged people to high five random people on the street. This takes a lot of courage and really gets you out of your comfort zone. What we are trying to achieve here is to present your life with different opportunities. It is hard for something new will happen if you choose to follow the same routine and do the exact same things you do every day.
So today, put your hand up for a job where someone is asking for volunteers. Ask your boss if you could lead the morning huddle at work and give a motivation for your colleagues. Do that thing you have been putting off for ages.
Cold showers are a great way to train you to stop making excuses. When you stop making excuses for getting into that shower, then you will stop making excuses for doing that thing you have been putting off for a long time
4. Write it down
I like the idea of writing things down, I don’t do it enough but I have done it for the most important things in my life.
When you force yourself to sit down and you have to ask yourself. What do I really want to do with my life? It becomes the perfect time to really reflect and to be honest with yourself. All the business of life aside, now it’s just you a pen and a piece of paper.
Currently I have a few pieces of paper stuck to my whiteboard in my office which has affirmations and other reminders about what I want to achieve and what I am trying to be.
A few things to remember
- Goals without a plan are just wishes
- Goals are not as important as habits. Habits form your system of doing things. In order to achieve outcomes in your business you probably implement a certain system. Start to fine tune and better your system and your goals will be achieved
- List the things you are good at and the things you want to be good at. I am thorough. I am articulate. I am not lazy. I am a go getter.
5. Create a better connection to your heart
Increased coherence between your brain and heart will help your body get into healing mode for one, and the other you can use your increased intuition to improve your decision making, and you need to make the right decisions when it comes to finding out what your passion or passions really are.
I have recently read Greg Braden’s book called The science of self-empowerment and I have been watching Joe Dispenza talk about generating thoughts that can heal you. In Greg’s book, he spoke about making an effort every day to become aware of your heart. To think about positive emotions like love and to slow your breathing, then start to ask your heart questions and listen to the answer. When your breathing is slow and relaxed your body goes into repair mode.
The heart is not logical, it is intuitive. Do you know that feeling you first get when you meet someone? Something inside tells you it is safe, this person is trustworthy or there might be a feeling of caution. That is your heart talking to you.
We can increase our intuition by increasing the coherence between our heart and our brain and we can achieve this by taking time each morning before the hustle and bustle of the day starts to connect to our hearts and strengthen that relationship between our brain in our head to the brain in our hearts.